Let’s Do It All Again…and Again…Forever.

Well, hello there!

After a much needed break and rest, I’m finally ready to talk about how amazing A Look in the Mirror turned out to be.  I’m still very much in awe of God’s faithfulness to me and how He has pushed me forward this year.  If you’re not aware, I relinquished all rights to my life this year and gave it over to God…and it’s been one of the best decisions ever.

For our last meeting, the girls were asked to say speech, written by them, describing how the program has helped and the difference it made in their lives.  Waterworks.  I cried like a baby because these girls have made such an impact on my life and all had such beautiful words to say.  I’m so proud of them because they faced their fears and did a little public speaking in front of their family and friends.

After we spilled out hearts (and eyes) we enjoyed each other for the last time and had some food and fellowship.  My wonderful friend, Mario Turner, captured both video and photos from the event!

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Tell Me Where Your Worth Lies: Weeks 3-4

So, hey y’all!

I know I was gone last week, but I’m feeling much better and ready to give you another recap of A Look in the Mirror, weeks 3 and 4.

Week Three

During Week 3, we talked about our emotions and reactions to the things that happen around us.  We played a little game of charades, where we examined what our emotions look like in action.  We talked about times that made us feel that way and discussed how to work through our emotions.

We also talked about perception vs. reality.  People will tell you that you are something that you’re not.  Ugly.  Fat.  Stupid.  But the beautiful thing about living life is that we make our own realities.  Who cares what people say about us?!  As long as we know who we are…we’ll be just fine.  The girls made affirmations that remind them of exactly who they are.

Week Four

This is most likely my favorite week so far.  We talked about self confidence and our worth.  I asked each girl to discuss their worth and how that relates to the people we choose to surround ourselves with.   All class we sat in a circle of positivity, so that we have can an honest discussion and so that we can see each other when we’re talking.

We talked about some tough stuff: school, bullying, confidence.  We also did the work.  We discussed what confidence means to us.  Each girl talked about what negative and positive impacts their friends have on them.  This allows us to really analyze who we’re surrounded by and how they affect our lives.

We ended class by sharing positive thoughts about each other.  Each girl stood in the middle of the circle and was given positive thoughts by the others who remained outside of the circle.  Admittedly, I had no plans on participating myself.  I felt like this was an activity for my girls, but they encouraged me to participate.  After a terrible work week and stressful home week (our home needs MAJOR repair after the hurricane) it was nice to hear such positive things from them.

This program has rejuvenated something in me that my regular work doesn’t allow: freedom to feel.  As adults we’re told to swallow our feelings, to keep it moving, to keep pushing and to keep making money, but following my dreams and having something to give to these girls has given me a joy that I cannot describe.

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Tell Me Something Good: Week 2

Hey y’all!

I’m back again with A Look in the Mirror!  This week we focused on controlling the things that we can and accepting the things that we cannot.  The girls did some activity sheets that asked some of the harder questions: what makes you feel bad?  What makes you feel good?  What is something that you don’t enjoy about yourself?

The point of this exercise was to learn what things we can control about what effects us every day.  Can you control if someone is mean to you?  Of course not, but our response can be controlled.  We can accept that mean people exist, but we don’t have to go to their level and be mean back to them.  Kill ’em with kindness!

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If the girls can identify their triggers early in life, it’ll make their interactions with others a little easier.  They will be able to identify someone negatively affecting them and be able to remove them from their lives.  Next week we discuss more triggers to our emotions and our responses to them.

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Fat Pocket Chocolate Goddess.

So, here we are with another work week in front of us (boooooo!). I’m just coming back from a wonderful best friendaversary trip with my beautiful best friend! We’re celebrating 10 wonderful years. 💕

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To celebrate, we decided to go on a five day cruise to the Bahamas and honey, it was beautiful and extremely hot, but so much fun! I don’t know if any of you have been on a cruise before, but people have way less inhibitions about the way they dress, which I can appreciate. As the body positive person I am, I thought why not celebrate my body for all that it is. Every roll, every lump, every bump and cellulite. I celebrate all of it because it’s all of me.

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Now, wearing a midriff top, or a bikini as a fat girl is not to be understood by many, but who cares! Fat people vacation too and if someone smaller than me can cool down by wearing her belly out, why can’t I? I choose to show my fat pockets because it’s my right to wear weather appropriate clothing YEAR ROUND.

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Of course I got some stares. I always do when I break the fat girl norm, but since my body belongs to me I wear what I want. I’m not going to lie, the first time I ever wore a bikini I tugged and tugged at it looking for more material to cover my stomach. Eventually I got more comfortable in who I am and in my skin and now I rock my clothes with no regrets. It was 90 degrees in the Bahamas and this fat girl was not about to roast in pants and long sleeves to make others feel comfortable. If you don’t like what you see, DON’T LOOK.

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If you’re reading this and you wonder how to get some of the black girl magic, chocolate goddess delight, fat pocket having confidence I will tell you that it takes lots of time to develop your confidence and a lot of hard work. Luckily, if you’re in the Charlotte area I provide all of the tips and tools that I use to boost myself up and remind myself of my worth in a series of workshops in my program called A Look in the Mirror. If you’re interested please sign an interest form below:

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